SPAMMERS....

Lately I have been getting Spammer comments only. I really do not like these  Anonymous postings. Does any one else get these?
I have been thinking how to stop them. there are several things I can do.

1. Stop accepting comments.....This would eliminate it however, that would defect the purpose of the Blog.
2. Block all comments until they are reviewed by me..... That will require a lot of time on my part. On the other hand, it might be the answer.

     3. block all the anonymous postings.....Limiting the visitors to having to give a e-mail address and name could also be the answer.

I am sure there are some other remedies to this problem. It just seems that these are the only ones I am getting lately. I think it is rude not to leave your name on the comment.

What do you use to manage the Spammers?

Thursday Tell All-Saint Louis

Many of you know that we adopted our daughter. She is now in College and has been interested in finding her Birth Mother. Our trip to Saint Louis was to meet her Birth Mother.

We had been talking with the adoption agency on the first meeting. What kind of meeting should it be and where should it take place? Meetings can be stressful for all parties. Having a venue that is a neutral place is a must. Planning activities that make it less stressful and providing some intimate time is important for all.

Meeting in Saint Louis turned out to be a great venue. We met at an ice stating rink in a park first that allowed some intimate time with some activity to allow for some laughter and plenty of room to have space. We met early enough that there where not too many people around.

After the initial meeting we went to the arch. There we had some time to talk as we walked in the park. Everyone seemed to have some alone time still with family support around. I had time to talked with her as well. So Many things go through ones mind at this time. What should we share and how much is appropriate. I think by this time I felt a little at ease to share with her.

We went out to dinner and talked with her kids. I really enjoyed talking with them. Learning a little about their views on things. At the end of the day we all went back to our different Hotels, giving us time to process the first meeting.

First meetings are always the hardest. The unknown causes all kinds of fears as well as different thoughts. If one can make it past the first meeting then the ease of the fears seems to be controlled. One starts to see things and understand more about the initial  beginning. We did not have an open adoption, therefore did not know a lot of the situation of the Birth mother.

We did tell our daughter all we knew. Always letting her know we love her and always will. Also telling her that the Birth Mother loved her also. It is so important to tell the children early during their life, that way they have a happier view of things. This came true when she finally met her Birth Mother and learned that she did love her and always thought of her. Now we could tell her these things because we did have a few letters that stated her love of the child. If one has that knowledge, telling the child is okay. However If one does not, it would not be good to tell the child of the BM love. Because it might not be true and could cause problems with trust later.

Over all the meeting had it's emotional times but, it did go well. I think the emotions are expected this is a new chapter in all our lives. Children growing up and learning about their beginning in the world can be stressful and frightening. We all have those needs whether you are adopted or not. Don't we all ask questions of our parents as we get older?  This is a process of wisdom and moving on.

I hope for you is that this will help one understand that life has its chapters and we must get though them. That way we can mature and become a better person, allowing us to be able to share and become wiser.

Off Again= on the Go

Well, it seems like we are constantly running. After our trip to Florida and the Carolina's, we are now on our way to Missouri. Hubby and I lived is Missouri several years ago. Going back is kind of exciting. I have so found memories of my time there. One of my Army buddies was raised there. I remember visiting her family there. Several times I enjoyed the time. Even though she is not longer living there my memories are still fond ones.

Be sure to check out my On the Go blog for some exciting photos of our trip. That is where I will be posting things. I love being able to post via my Blackberry. I will usually post in real time, I know your all like that.

Monday News- Shopping-Flu- Economy

We had a great weekend. Friday, daughter and I went shopping. It was fun, she needed new clothes for college this winter. It is cold and snowy in Pennsylvania. Still need to look at her coats. I think she has it covered. However she wants to get a new one that is lighter in weight. We will see how it goes.

Saturday hubby and I watched Scifi movies. I really enjoyed that! All day in the theater room watching in HD and Theater sound. Scifi is very thrilling in that mode. I think I am "end of the world" movie out. We watched so many... Cyclones, Tornado's, Solar fares,  and planet alignments doomsday I think they covered the end of the earth scenarios. Of course there was always a savior and they saved the earth. We need to take notes just in case these happens.

Sunday we watched service from home. With the flu season in full swing now and we a going to St Louis, we are trying to stay healthy. Our church has over ten thousand people and they like to shake hands as well as all the sneezing, coughing and touching things.  The news has been telling us this is a bad season for the Flu. We have been told that the Flu shot does not cover this strand and that  we should get the shot. Also we have been told to wash are hands often ,cover our mouths, and take an abundant  of products. I know that they are only guessing and have no clue as to controlling it. Hey look this is a virus and the only way to steer clear is to boost your immunity and stay clear of the folks who have it. After all everyone needs to work and will still go even if they are suffering. In this economy missing work is not an option. The bosses are just waiting for a reason to not pay out.

We did go out to eat. The restaurant was very sparse in people. This is a place that has been very busy in the past. Just goes to show that the economy is still suffering. The food was still good and the service was great.  The weather was so foggy so we came home hubby took a nap and daughter worked on a project. I just chilled out.

How was your weekend?

Fridays Question: What makes us?

We all have a spirited personality with in us. Sometimes it can give the wrong impression when using a form of communication. For example let's take the voice only. Using a telephone one can say something that the recipient can understand a different way. In our world folks need to see the whole picture to understand the words spoken. Body language and tone together gives that picture. Ah but, can someone still receive the wrong  Message?

For me I tend to be Matter of Fact person and have been told can come across stern. This is not how I think. Grew up in a minister household and having a strong Mother has made me a strong will person. Have been looking at my family lately and have noticed that three forth of them are this way.

My older brother is the only Laid back one in the family. He tends to go with the flow. However he does have a side that is sensitive. I saw that side when me Mother passed away. He really does care about some things.

My younger brother is very stern and what some would classify as opinionated on many things. One who is set in his ways and will not let others persuade him in any way. However I did see a different side when my mother passed. He let the side a compassion out, for a while was willing to show he cared.

My youngest brother is a strong will and very sensitive guy. He seems to care how others view him and takes every action and reaction to heart.  Not knowing him too well, I have seen some traits of fear of the unknown in him.  Blaming himself for things that happen in life. As if he has control over everything around him. Still trying to remain Strong will.

Now for me, there is the I can do it all by myself syndrome in my mind. Which sometimes can cause conflicts in relationships. Allowing the perfectionist side to take over. Although it did do me good in the Military and in Life. Having this trait is not a bad thing, it makes one a stronger person. Able to stand strong and get to job done. Being Strong will gives a person a sense of strength that some folks would label as " They are a bitchy person"  (that is their words not mine).  that label was given to me in the Military. I do not think of me like that. However it did not hurt in the military, it made it easier to handle the missions.

My thought is that I am a caring person with a guard up to prevent being hurt. Have always had a compassionate heart and softness. However have not let it show out in the world often. There are a few folks that have experienced it. At time my words can be curt and taken the wrong way. I tend to be matter of fact like my family and sometimes can put my foot in my mouth.

Working on this has been a experience. Since my daughter has expressed her view of my words on folks. I have been trying to change the way I react to people.  As well as the words I say, being slower to speak. Have found that one can control how they come across by choosing when to speak and when to remain silent. Something my mother tried to teach me. She was good at it, I hope to be as good in my lifetime.

In retrospect one can see that our upbringing has a great deal of influence on who we become. One can make some small changes in order to get along with folks. However one will have to decide that they are who they are because of their upbringing.  We can decided to alter some things but just keep in mind you will have to work hard to change a view one has already accepted.

We change and mature as we age. Can one really start over? Or is it just making small changes that over time become a part of you? This is Friday and that means time for questions. What do you think? Are you viewing yourself as others do? Or do you see yourself differently? Is there something you wish to change? You can choose one to answer or more if you wish. Leave your link and I will visit you.

Monday News--A New Year....New Beginnings

 With the New year Comes new postings. Since the Kids are growing up and no longer wish to be highlighted on this blog, the format will change. This New Monday post will be about my week in review. However I will start this one with my year in review. So many thoughts of how to continue this home blog. Look for a new format and design to follow. Will be working on that, need to also work on a new widget. New things to come for a New beginning.

With a New year upon us comes New Beginnings. We look forward to great new experiences.  There are Babies on their way and New folks that we meet. My hope is that this year will be a great experience.

Two Thousand Twelve was a rough year. In that year our daughter graduated high school and went off to college. Hubby had so many surgeries, and some major infections. Health wise it was not a good year for him. We were told we would have to relocate to a different state. I started having ocular migraines.  Thinking that I am so happy that year is behind us.

What to look forward to.... In the New Year Hubby found out the new relocation date is beyond his retirement year. So that means we will not have to move. His health is under control now and he is making the decision no more  surgeries. Although he is still under the care of the Infectious Disease Association doctors care. Will be for the next year, however that is a good thing. My Daughter is starting to grow up. She has a lot of new things beginning in her life.  With all things comes new experiences. Some would say a new chapter in ones life. My hope is that this new chapter will be a pleasant reading one.

We have so much to be thankful for. To be alive in Two Thousand Thirteen is so surreal. Being a Kid in the Nineteen sixties I never thought much about this year date. We just were wishing to make it to  year Two Thousand. Now I look forward to more years. Think I will make it to Two Thousand Fifty? I am planning on it. Granny is now ninety-five and still going. Hoping is it in the gene poll for me.