Friday Fears: Hard Times

 So, one comes to a point in their life when a whisper in a ear can change everything!  My life has really been a whirlwind these pass  eight years. Loosing my Mother had been very hard. I still miss her so much. At times I hear her whispering in my ear. It has really affected my life.
A Few years ago we noticed that Dad had not been keep up with important things. That started to put in motion some changes in our lifestyle. Making trip to Dads and handling things for him. Then Two years ago thing started to get worst. He was having Mini Strokes, TIAs. It was causing more problems with his thought pattern. Last year he had a Major stroke. Now he can not live by himself. Not because he can not walk or dress himself or talk or doing normal everyday things. It was because he could not remember to take his insulin and daily meds. He could not remember things. He would watch a TV show over and over because he could not remember he saw it. Could not remember to get up, what time or day it is. So, now he lives with us. We are maintaining two houses and still traveling a lot.
Life has changed so much in the past 4 years. Daughter went off to college. We had a empty nest time. In that time we traveled and enjoyed the Great America! Daughter Graduated and we moved her back to our area. She started a New Job, and Is getting Married next May. So Now the Fun begins again. Planning the Wedding !
Next thing that happened is we found out a sibling has ALS. Now things get Hard again. The up and downs of the family members coping with this news. It has been hard on Everyone, and rightly so! However, it has really been hard on my baby brother. He has a soft heart and everything affect him deeply. I so feel for him. My Father doesn't remember most of the time that his son has this. When He does he doesn't comprehend it. So, we deal with that part of it. We remind he every time we visit. that is so Dad would want to visit him. Otherwise Dad would just love staying home all the time.
In the past eight years, we have had  seven  children born, three marriages, three deaths and four major Family events.  These have been Hard Times.

 This is my Birthday Month. Not only is it that time, I also come of age for making those important life changing decision! I really want to Drive Real,Real Slow...... Want to slow down here and turn back the hands of time. Not ready to make this step in life. So Why is it that we need to? Do not feel like I am there. Still feel like my 40's. I would Say 20's but I do not feel that good!
Recently our Daughter started selling LuLaRoe clothing. This make me smile cause, Don't tell them ( I am whispering in your ear here), these are the clothing I wore in my Teens and Twenties! Yes I have gotten back on the Bandwagon.  Wearing these again and feeling great! Loosing Weight and get more fit. Maybe it has to do this these remarkable clothes. Whatever the reason, it does change ones attitude on life. Let's get out and start doing things again! Yeah it's my Birthday month but I am getting younger by the minute!
The times are hard now because Love ones are gone and the ones remaining are in pain and dealing with life altering things. I am just trying to stay happy and enjoying life as it is now.  My emotions might get tough some times, but we need to enjoy our time here on earth. When folks are gone that dreaded phrase " I only wish......" need not come up. Only the wonderful memories we had. That is why I will stay happy and plan vacations and buy Clothes!!

Cyber Bulling at the WorkPlace

It is so hard now a days with all this social media connections. Workers have found a new way to harass  follow workers. There are many ways to control this. However, most workers fear job retaliation if they block the boss or worker.

My thought is  do not have office workers as Followers or Facebook Friends. We use to  go to work and leave all the work saga in the office. Now it goes home with us by means of the Internet. So, by not having them as friends or followers they go home to there domain and you to yours. With no 24 hours monitoring.

I also think that one needs their own space to interact in things that interest them with out comments from the office. When Managers start Stalking your Social Media pages leaving comments about office stuff, that is just meddling and  is verging on Cyber stalking or Bulling. Come on folks you need to not be obsessed with that. By the way it is a criminal offense in the United States!

Many folks have side businesses as well as a corporate job. One  does as a  start up hoping to some day be able to make a living just doing what they Love.  There is nothing wrong with that. I would say over 50% of American hold down two jobs, Just to make ends meet. This is the American Way and Right. No longer can a institution dicate to you that you can not work another job. Those times of Slavery has ended. No job holds Sole Ownership of a person in America!

So, If you are one that is being Cyber stalked or one that is The Stalker, Take action. Being Stalked, Unfriend them, Block them or Report them. What ever action you need to take.  Now if you are the Stalker, Stop and think How would you like to be Monitored 24/7? Do you think it will make the work place enviroment any better, Or the relationship with your workers better? You need to let them have their life outside of the work place and stop the madness. Just do not join groups or friend pages of workers. Make it a point not to look at what they are doing out side work. In other words Mind your own business and leave your workers alone. Make it a policy you have that you do not have worker associates as friends in you Social Media world.

Workers and Managers do what we use to do before Social Media....... Ask what did you do yesterday, last night , over the weekend. We use to talk about the things at work and not have everyone know everything in real time! This social Media can be great but also a curse.

In Closing, Just think about how it affects you in your life. We do not need more stress that last 24/7! there needs to be down time to do want we like without others from the work place Meddling.

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