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Thursday, April 5, 2018

Thursday Tell All : Update, long time awaiting



Long time since I have given an update. Life has been so busy and a lot has been happening. The Holidays were rough last year.Sometimes things do not go as one wishes.

My Daughter Husband left her in October. It was hard on everyone. Seeing these thing happening and not being able to help your child is hard. Children  Grow up and have to  search their own  self to find out how they are to live. As a Parent letting Go is Hard. We have had to do that. It is a process, we are  learning as we go. Moved her out of the apartment this past week. Another Chapter is starting for her and us.

My Brother who had ALS was on Vacation in Virginia  in December. The Lord decided to take him home while they were there. It was  hard  on the family. We knew his Days were numbered.  Never thought he would leave us so fast. The family decided to  get through Christmas and then have the  final good bye. I had my Older brother come here for the funeral. He is  living in Ohio.  Of course it was during the snow season. So the trip was rough getting him here.  He stayed through the New Year due to the weather. We could not get him back. Airports where closed due to snow storms.

My Dad had a Doctors appointment in February. So we heading to Virginia for a few weeks. Yes we had snow storms even then. Once we got at the Virginia house  we learned that the Geothermal unit had caught fire. Causing it to not be working.  The house was 54 degrees. We had to use electric heater to stay warm. It took a few day to repair it. We were able to  get some more work done in the attic and some cleaning done.  My  other brother help repair a  roof that needed support. Dad got a  Good report from the Doctor. He is doing well  with the diabetes, numbers our looking good. His kidneys are showing improvement also.

I Got back to Maryland in March. Just in time for my daughter Birthday. We were able to celebrate the weekend of her birthday. Then we had to start cleaning and moving out the  apartment stuff in West Virginia.  Rented a storage facility and a truck to move her. Days of cleaning and fighting the weather. She was living  one and a half hours from us. Finally out of the place. Today I just  finished  having things  turned off. So much to do when moving out of a place.

 It is April now and we are getting ready for tax season for business  and home. Plus I do my Fathers. So I am still busy. We did get to spend Easter with the  Family. Went to the Fort for Easter Brunch and got to  attend church together. Was a nice time.

Like I said it has been a busy time  since I last wrote here. We are planning a trip in the Next  Few months to Virginia and North Carolina. So the summer traveling will be starting soon. Plus I will be doing some yard work preparing for the summer months.  I am looking forward to sitting out and enjoying the summer time.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

October Child!

These are the Colorado Aspens  in the 1970's
There is something about when you are born. I love the fall! The smells: Bonfires, fire places burning,  and the smell of the crisp air. Cool weather: love the cooler evenings, the fall rain and the fall winds. The colors of the seasons: Burnt orange, purple, reds, browns, yellows and golds. The foods: Pumpkin stuff, Onion Pies, Chili, Pears, Wild Boar, Making s'mores, hot cocoa, Apple Cider, Gluwine  and Stews. The Festivals: Autumn fest, October fest, and Fall hayrides.  It is the time of year that excites me most.

Maybe it is because I was born in that time frame. Everywhere I have lived I loved this season. In Europe the Fall comes with all sorts of fun and activities. The food was so seasonably good. In Asia that time of year produce a different view. However, I love that also. In the USA the West coast had it's cooler time and it was  different. I loved the ocean and the smells there also. The south was warmer however it also had Fall type activities. The east coast has the changing of the leaves and the air. Beautiful! The Mid West also a very beautiful place. Weather and Festivals, and changing of the colors, gorgeous!!  Every where I have lived and visited has WOW me with their Fall.

I will be going up to Sheperdstown West Virginia soon  for some great Fall German food. Wild Boar Is my favorite item. We had a place here in Old Ellicott City that  will fly in Wild Boar for their fall  Wild Boar Stew, My favorite. Need to check to see if they are still open after the Great Flood. A trip there today would be great!

I am a October Child and Love the Fall!!

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Hard Times

Marriage  in the first year is  so hard. So many things comes out. It is amazing  how one can live with a person for a year and date them for  years, then still not be able to commit to a marriage. What is it about that process?

 My thoughts are that some folks think things will get better after they marry. When in Fact they do not! If a person is not monogamous before the wedding they will not be after. However after a marriage it is called Cheating. Before it is just an affair.

There are other things also. Sometimes folks feel they can  change a person after the union. A big misnomer is  the thought that a person will become a better wife or husband. Following the Head of the house rule.  To discuss these points I will need to number them.

 Number one Changing a person. This is one that I feel is the biggest misnomer. Most people do not change in the first year. There are adjustments that each will need to decide if they want to do.  Give and take is not a  inbreed trait. Most of the time there needs to be good communication in the relationship to set some goals. Might I say these are Goals and not Set in Stone Rules or Demands. These can be stressful in the first year.

Number two the roles of Husband and Wife. Oh  these words! Not common in this decade of marriage. They refer to it as " Partners". Even though it is still an inbreed thought pattern. We all have that thought of what  married life should be. The problem is it is not always the same  in the two persons minds. Depending on how one Grows up and their family life will determined  their view on this matter. It is so important to do that premarital counseling. It is here that those  expectations are realized.  That is also the time to discuss how to handle your difference. This is important so that the first year will go better. Not that things or ideas will not change the following years. Most of the time they do change and adapt. It just takes time.

Number three The Head of the House. It use to be decades ago the the Man was the head of the house. He made all the decisions, handle the funds and Paid the bills. Around the 70's that changed, it might have even started in the late 60's. However with are changing times the Woman  have become more  vocal and the main income person. Even having two separate bank account have become the norm.  If a person was raised in  a "Head of the House" home. It will be harder for that person to adapt to the new Marriage structure. Sometime in the 70's I took the  lead in paying the bill and managing the money. It was agreed upon by my husband and I.  My thoughts are this it a subject that need to be decided upon early in the marriage,if not before the marriage vows. Money is the number one cause for separations in the first year. Deciding who will pay the bills and how the household will run financially is  an essential piece in a marriage.

Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I have been married for over 40 years. We have had our ups and downs. However we were able to get through them with some help from counseling and an open communication between the two of us. Our thoughts of marriage has changed since we first were married. We have evolved to a different realtionship in the marriage. We are still in love with each other and look forward to our retirement. As I tried to show, change does come it is just not in the first year.  Also that some things are very important to look at before  the vows. These are things that will save the marriage and make the first few years easier.

 Learning about each other is an ongoing  process and just when you think you know, something new  shows up.  I have always said " You must like the person very much, respect them and Love them with all your heart" . Everything you do must be with that persons feeling in your mind. How will it effect him or her. Is it glorifing  your mate. Once you are married it is no longer just you that matters.