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Thursday, April 10, 2014

The Empty Nest Syndrome : Sewing Returns With Help!

With my daughter off to College, I have decided to pick up the craft of the Thread and Needles. One thing I really enjoyed doing was Sewing, needle point, knitting and quilting. Even though I did do some Quilting with my daughter, she wasn't into the Sewing thing.

I decided to rekindle the Sewing part of my past. In  recent times I have made some Costume for Critter and Daughter. However the clothing was something that really stop when my daughter no longer wanted to wear dresses and home made things.  You know the tweens years. Everything was black with little color.

I can remember making dresses for her and my niece Diana, what a joy. With today clothing cost so high , it is time to start again. So, I finally ordered a Dress Form. Have always wanted one, never was able to afford it. Or maybe just thought it was a luxury. Either way never purchased one. Today I made the decision to buy one.

My daughter will be in a Wedding and I had to , of course, order a Dress that was larger than her measurements. That means it will need to be altered. Felt like that is something I am really able to do. The problem is she is , as many of you know, away in college. This makes is difficult to tailor the Dress. Now with the Dress Form I will be able to Tailor it with out her being here. Of Course that will save money  in the future and it might even be cheaper than have it altered by a dress maker.

Recently  I was with the Bride when they told her the alteration would be around 300 dollars. The dress was under 600.00. That meant almost half  the cost to do the alteration and we are only talking about Hemming!  Maybe I should get back in the alterations business again.

Well there you have it, My sewing days have returned. Stay tune to see what  turns out in the near future.

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

The Family Syndrome

Okay you are probably wondering what I mean by this title. Well it has to do with Family matters and how it is viewed by others.  On one hand a member might be the one who always contact the family members. I think this is a normal thing. However on the other hand that person can get tired of always being the one initiating the call.

I often wondered what would happen if one stops contacting the family. I learned that this year. They really have no idea. That made me realize that Family  does not really matter to some folks. They are but a fleeting thought. Now after stating that, I need to say that family does matter to some.

During the Holiday we had a outburst in the family. It was not pretty and has cause some rethinking in my family.  Thinking that some of the family is  a pleasure to be with and some not so.  It also made us think that saying you sorry is not in  their makup. Still waiting for the apology. When it comes to social media, maybe some folks just need to not  be informed. That should give the desire to call to catch up. This make more sense to me.

Social media can really cause more problems than one needs in their family. Perhaps the wrong message is received or  prejudgment on things posted. These things can cause ill feelings between family members. There use to be a privacy with in a couples or family home and life. Being able to only share the things that we want to. Now days we tend to share every thing on the social media form. Allowing all to view and judge and convict. Folks can not tell if they are joking around or serious.

When my Husband was in the hospital very sick. I posted it on the facebook and all the family could view it. I know they were active, however no one called or commented,  I felt so alone. when I call family they said they had no idea. What I told them in a message and on social media. Having to go through the whole thing by myself. Not a great feeling. At the point the feeling of Screw them was very high on our minds.

Hubby and I made the decision that when we died there will be no Funeral no Family burial. We are simply going to donate our bodies and that is all!! You see it is pointless to have folks come and say how much they will miss us or how close we were, when none of that is true. At least not while we were living. We are always the ones who would visit or call. Oh yes family have been in our area but no call or visit. Now that is just rude. We would hear they were hear visiting family....so there you go...we are not Family to them!

So the Family Syndrome to me is this. When  one leaves the family to get married, have children or just to work, The family gets fragmented. That fragment can not be repaired, cause there has to be a willingness on both side. When one side is not calling or doing something to renew their relationship,
Then there is no need to continue to try.

We have a wonderful relationship with some ex family members. These are people who have divorced family members.  They are closer than our Blood relations.  I call them family. Our adopted daughter is very close. Very accepted by our ex family members. She is treated just like family. Not so with some of our Blood.

Trying to balance a relationship with Blood relations is very hard. The time has come to see how much they are willing to work on the relationship. Are they willing to come see us,  willing to call and carry some communication with us. Willing to have a active relationship? All these things are part of this Family Syndrome.

Maybe I will be able to update this Family Syndrome  article. It would be nice to have folks would even show that they care.  This feeling of loneliness really sucks. I think hubby and I are at the point in life where we are going to do what make us feel good and is very enjoyable to us. It is time to have fun and not drama. Family is welcome to embrace the fun with us. Just want to join in , come to our neck of the woods. We have been to theirs several times.

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Time to travel: Headed Northeast

For this trip we will be headed up North. Covering the northeastern states, along the coast line and inlet to the mountains.
First stop will be Andover Massachusetts. 30 miles west of Boston,this town is a small one with a population of about 9,000.
I like the smaller towns as well as the city. Each one has it charm. Traveling by car will give us a chance to cope out the area.
The next stop will be Prospect Harbor Maine. A quaint town in the Acadia Forest. We will be stay at a B&B that was built i the 1800,s and was a place for the elite to visit and watch the ocean front.
We will spend a day in Bar Harbour. Plan on Whale watching and enjoying the views and food. This will be our 36th Wedding Anniversary so,we are eating at a place with a water view and great local catches. Will be meeting up with family who are also traveling in the area.
The next day Onto New Hampshire and Vermont. Never been to those places. this will be a great place to see the covered bridges and great history of the area. After a week there, we will head to  Saracuse, New York. There is a great resturant we are eager to eat at.
All our adventures will be posted here on this blog. Maybe even a couple on the On the Go blog in real time. be sure to follow to see the shares and details of our trip.