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Thursday, October 26, 2017

October Child!

These are the Colorado Aspens  in the 1970's
There is something about when you are born. I love the fall! The smells: Bonfires, fire places burning,  and the smell of the crisp air. Cool weather: love the cooler evenings, the fall rain and the fall winds. The colors of the seasons: Burnt orange, purple, reds, browns, yellows and golds. The foods: Pumpkin stuff, Onion Pies, Chili, Pears, Wild Boar, Making s'mores, hot cocoa, Apple Cider, Gluwine  and Stews. The Festivals: Autumn fest, October fest, and Fall hayrides.  It is the time of year that excites me most.

Maybe it is because I was born in that time frame. Everywhere I have lived I loved this season. In Europe the Fall comes with all sorts of fun and activities. The food was so seasonably good. In Asia that time of year produce a different view. However, I love that also. In the USA the West coast had it's cooler time and it was  different. I loved the ocean and the smells there also. The south was warmer however it also had Fall type activities. The east coast has the changing of the leaves and the air. Beautiful! The Mid West also a very beautiful place. Weather and Festivals, and changing of the colors, gorgeous!!  Every where I have lived and visited has WOW me with their Fall.

I will be going up to Sheperdstown West Virginia soon  for some great Fall German food. Wild Boar Is my favorite item. We had a place here in Old Ellicott City that  will fly in Wild Boar for their fall  Wild Boar Stew, My favorite. Need to check to see if they are still open after the Great Flood. A trip there today would be great!

I am a October Child and Love the Fall!!

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Hard Times

Marriage  in the first year is  so hard. So many things comes out. It is amazing  how one can live with a person for a year and date them for  years, then still not be able to commit to a marriage. What is it about that process?

 My thoughts are that some folks think things will get better after they marry. When in Fact they do not! If a person is not monogamous before the wedding they will not be after. However after a marriage it is called Cheating. Before it is just an affair.

There are other things also. Sometimes folks feel they can  change a person after the union. A big misnomer is  the thought that a person will become a better wife or husband. Following the Head of the house rule.  To discuss these points I will need to number them.

 Number one Changing a person. This is one that I feel is the biggest misnomer. Most people do not change in the first year. There are adjustments that each will need to decide if they want to do.  Give and take is not a  inbreed trait. Most of the time there needs to be good communication in the relationship to set some goals. Might I say these are Goals and not Set in Stone Rules or Demands. These can be stressful in the first year.

Number two the roles of Husband and Wife. Oh  these words! Not common in this decade of marriage. They refer to it as " Partners". Even though it is still an inbreed thought pattern. We all have that thought of what  married life should be. The problem is it is not always the same  in the two persons minds. Depending on how one Grows up and their family life will determined  their view on this matter. It is so important to do that premarital counseling. It is here that those  expectations are realized.  That is also the time to discuss how to handle your difference. This is important so that the first year will go better. Not that things or ideas will not change the following years. Most of the time they do change and adapt. It just takes time.

Number three The Head of the House. It use to be decades ago the the Man was the head of the house. He made all the decisions, handle the funds and Paid the bills. Around the 70's that changed, it might have even started in the late 60's. However with are changing times the Woman  have become more  vocal and the main income person. Even having two separate bank account have become the norm.  If a person was raised in  a "Head of the House" home. It will be harder for that person to adapt to the new Marriage structure. Sometime in the 70's I took the  lead in paying the bill and managing the money. It was agreed upon by my husband and I.  My thoughts are this it a subject that need to be decided upon early in the marriage,if not before the marriage vows. Money is the number one cause for separations in the first year. Deciding who will pay the bills and how the household will run financially is  an essential piece in a marriage.

Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I have been married for over 40 years. We have had our ups and downs. However we were able to get through them with some help from counseling and an open communication between the two of us. Our thoughts of marriage has changed since we first were married. We have evolved to a different realtionship in the marriage. We are still in love with each other and look forward to our retirement. As I tried to show, change does come it is just not in the first year.  Also that some things are very important to look at before  the vows. These are things that will save the marriage and make the first few years easier.

 Learning about each other is an ongoing  process and just when you think you know, something new  shows up.  I have always said " You must like the person very much, respect them and Love them with all your heart" . Everything you do must be with that persons feeling in your mind. How will it effect him or her. Is it glorifing  your mate. Once you are married it is no longer just you that matters.


Monday, September 25, 2017

So fed up with our Football Teams!

I do not get it! what is wrong with these folks. Football and Apple pie/ American traditions. No place for politics voicing, like previous point. What if folks just stopped buying apples to make pies? Who Is that really hurting( the growers)! I agree that The Fields are no place for protest. and besides it is not our flag that is the problem. One Man does no own the flag, it is our nation Icon.. A Representative of our of our 50 states, not just a man in office , He changes every 4 year. If the players do not like America, then move out. They will quickly learn, how great we are even with our Political differences. I am so fed up with all this stuff. I really think the Coaches and Managers should put a stop to it. Love how the other team just did not go out on the field during that time. But wish they would have gone and stood up for our country and Flag. What a statement that would have made. I served in the military ( Vietnam era) and I am proud of our flag and colors. Serving in the military gives one a different view of America and a better appreciation of our Country and Freedoms.

 Fed up with the NFL leaders , not stopping this Political voicing on the fields. My family is now having nothing to do with the NFL and if the other sports start it we will not have anything to do with them either. Time to get the Games back to just Games!

Political change can be made through your Senators and Congressman. Voice your opinions to them. They are the ones that can change things. Not a President, who can not speak in a more tactical way. Presidents have their own way of talking. Although we would like a perfect one, That is no possible. There will always be something they said are do they rubs folks wrong. Just think of the things you do that break up friendships or marriages  or  separate Family. I am sure you just do no t get it sometimes, how folks react to something that is said. Even if there is some truth in it, how it comes out can be harsh. 

It is not just the disrespect of the flag, or how many souls where damaged or lost for freedom. It is the  Tradition of our 200 years of Freedom that is represented. Each country has their flags that represent their country. Ask them what it represents.  

Baseball, Football and Apple Pie are all American traditions. A part of what brings all of us together for a short time to enjoy each other.  all fighting, or Political preferences set aside. Just to enjoy the games and take us away from the problems and trials of life. I hope we can get back to the  enjoyment of the game.